Monday, June 14, 2010

dear diary...

I hate to treat my blog as a diary... I mean, really, do you care?
I don't think so.

So, if you are not in the mood to borrow my diary and pick the lock with a bobby pin, I suggest you move on to the next blog on your "daily read" list. =) I will not take offense.

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder."
.we can thank the Roman poet Sextus Propertius for this phrase.

Do you subscribe to this belief? I surely do not. In fact, in my humble opinion, I think it's a load of bull-oney.

Absence makes:
The friendships harder.
The tears flow faster.
The drama grow bigger.
The text alerts ring fewer.
The regret for missed opportunities hurt deeper.

I have been thinking about this a lot lately as I'm sure, to many of my friends, it seems as though I have dropped off the face of the planet (except for my twitter and blog updates, of course).

I have never been very good at "keeping in touch." Luckily, with many of my friends, we pick up right where we left off:
- EBA has been my bff since the day she was born (I've always made that distinction clear, seeing as how I am 3 months, 4 days, 4 hours, and 32 minutes older.)
- You might remember in my post here that I mentioned a reunion with my girl Cran.
- With my EB girls, the random text, tweet, or FB post keeps the friendship alive.
- With other friends, the social networking correspondence also rings true.
- Last night I received a phone call from a number I didn't recognize... from a friend that I only spent 10 days with... 5 years ago... at a leadership conference... and the conversation was incredibly enjoyable.

I think this is a shortcoming of mine, but it seems that my summer vacation can manifest itself in a "vacation" from my friendships.

I do not like to live in the past or feel discontent. Rather, I fully immerse myself in my present. I think that's where I'm at right now.

So, allow me to amend my earlier statement...

Absence does make the heart grow fonder... if you allow it.

I know that when I am reunited with my friends, I will realize just how much I have missed them and how much I value and love their presence in my life. The different ways in which we show that "fondness" that dear old Sextus talks about, makes us fabulously unique. After all, I would NOT want to be friends with 10 other versions of myself. How boring?!

Okay, diary entry closed... for now... wink, wink.

xoxo, E

1 comment:

  1. Hey E!,

    I totally know what you mean! I've never been any good at keeping in touch either and once a certain "phase" is over, whether it be end of the year, recital time, even holidays, I find myself back in my own little world, not reaching out to my friends. I mean, it's SO much easier to keep in touch out of convenience- ie. blogs, twitter, facebook, etc. Do you remember when we made those 5-10 year plans with Mary? I'm pretty sure on EVERY interval of time I said something about staying in touch with my friends from college... so obviously it's been a goal of mine. But the truly amazing thing, is when you do transition back to being around those people and things DO fall back into place like you were never apart. I think that says just as much about friendships, as it would if you talked on the phone for hours everyday. Missing you and hope you're summer is enough to keep you busy! ;)